Make a faster, more confident decision as Merle leads you through a five-step process. Incisive exercises will cut through obsessive tangles of pros and cons to reveal your answer. You will steer clear of popular misconceptions, resist social pressure to parent, and handle couple disagreements. Based on thirty-five years of experience, this is the definitive work on the most important decision of your life.
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June 2026 Decision Confidence Workshop
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Join Certified Decision Coach Vanessa Bombardieri for an insightful, online Decision Confidence Workshop, plus two 1-on-1 Coaching Sessions later, one with Merle and one with Vanessa. Enjoy the rest of 2026 with clarity — stop worrying and start deciding!
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Baby Decision Confidence Workshop
Sunday, June 14, 2026
12 PM – 3:30 PM ET via Zoom
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In this interactive, small-group workshop you will use brainstorming, intriguing exercises, step-by-step guidelines, and even humor to help support your decision journey. You’ll also learn self-exploration exercises to do alone or with your partner, and how to interrupt distracting self-talk so you can discover the right decision for you.
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Here’s how my book, The Baby Decision: How to Make the Most Important Choice of Your Life, will help you:
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- Your decision will be faster, and you’ll make it with more confidence as I lead you through the five steps of the decision.
- Efficient self-exploration exercises and time-tested guidelines will cut through obsessive tangles of pros and cons. You’ll know much more about the childfree choice, one-child, LGBT, and single-parent families so you can make your choice based on facts, not wrong assumptions.
- You’ll know enough about fertility and adoption to factor them into your decision.
- You’ll know what to do if you and your partner disagree.
- You’ll know how to cope with pressures from family and friends.
The Baby Decision is based on my 35 years as a psychotherapist, coach, and workshop leader specializing in parenthood decision-making.
Best wishes for your decision-making and enjoying your life.
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Experts Praise The Baby Decision:
“Bombardieri is magic. In this book, she takes you by the hand into the depths of the scary and sometimes overwhelming baby decision. Step by step, she helps you find clarity. The Baby Decision is a must-read for everyone of child-bearing age.”
Mara Altman
Author of Thanks for Coming, Baby Steps and Bearded Lady
“The intelligence and generosity of Bombardieri’s perspectives are a gift to all women and men; she deeply honors individuality while reminding us of the compassion that is all of our potential.”
Bina Venkataraman
writer and climate policy expert
“The Baby Decision is an indispensable guide. Brimming with humanity and respect, informed by research and infused with clinical wisdom, this book is a gem”
Stephanie Morgan, MSW, Psy.D.
Psychologist, Private Practice. Co-author, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, and Compassion and Wisdom in Psychotherapy
“The Baby Decision is extraordinarily stimulating and thought-provoking. I became addicted to each word and could not put the book down. It is clearly written and infused with wisdom. Highly recommended for women of childbearing age, their partners, and their OB-GYNs.”
Isaac Schiff, MD.
Chief of Obstetrics and Gynecology (Emeritus)
Vincent OB-GYN, Massachusetts General Hospital
Harvard Medical School
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